When I was job hunting, I was convinced that the first job I interviewed for would be the "perfect" one. We often envision how we want our lives to turn out without taking a step back and remembering that many times, the end result is a far cry from what you pictured in your head.
And if you're like me, you prefer to live in your own little made-up world because it's safe, familiar. You decide what happens next; it's in your hands. But, in the end, that world ends up destroyed and you're left with a reality you never thought would be yours. Often times, however, that reality is far better than the one you envisioned.
I have been rejected for too many jobs to count, and you know what? I'm proud of it. Those rejections ultimately led me to the job I have now, one that I truly love and enjoy. At the end of my job hunting journey, I realized that those seemingly endless noes saved me from taking a detour and realizing six months into my job that I actually hated what I was doing. I am so extremely grateful for the tears, disappointment and complete loss of confidence because they taught me that you can always rebuild. Start over. Have a new beginning.
Here are four reasons getting rejected for a job will be one of the best things to ever happen to you because believe me, I've been there, and the grass is most definitely not always greener on the other side:
You Can Now Find The Perfect Job
This sounds so cliche, but it really is true. As soon as one door closes, another one opens. As soon as I thought I had no hope left, another person would call to set up an interview. A better job would be posted. I would get through the second round of an interview. There were so many times I thought, "This one is it, I can feel it," only to be let down the next day. I learned that you can't be obsessed with an idea if it hasn't come to fruition. It is just a possibility, not something permanent. It's a roller coaster ride of emotions, but it's one you will overcome. And you will be stronger. More durable. Less naive. I encountered many storms throughout my job search, and I can now finally dance in the rain.
You Can Get Even More Interview Experience
Interviewing is a skill you will constantly work on throughout your entire career, whether you're a surgeon or a museum curator or even a Sunday school teacher. Look forward to learning and growing as a professional. Every no is another chance to get back up and show them what you've got. It may not be comfortable, effortless or even enjoyable, but it will always be good for you in the long run. Interviewing with so many personalities taught me how to show off my skills without coming off self-centered and pretentious. I became more of a people person because of these experiences. Keep this in mind as you dread each interaction. New situations aren't fun and they are rarely easy, but they often reward you, one way or another.
You Have Time To Change Your Mind
Did I apply for jobs I wasn't sure I was the right fit for? You bet. Do I regret applying and interviewing for them? Not at all. I'm grateful for these experiences because they helped me find my true path. I majored in Public Relations and was 100% positive PR was what I was born to do. By my first internship, I realized I hated PR and wanted to do something more creative. Fast forward one year and I'm now a Copywriter and Social Media Marketing Assistant and 1,000% happier than I would be in a PR job. You may never change your mind, or you may change your mind a million times. Not everyone discovers their true passion right out of college. Few even know five years down the line. But finding your passion is all a part of the process. Let life happen. Don't force what's not meant to be. Change is going to happen, and that's okay.
You Will Be Stronger Because Of It
Sure, rejection sucks. It goes against everything you were taught in school. You grow up thinking, "Succeed! Succeed! Succeed!" and all of a sudden, someone's screaming in your ear, "You fail! You fail! You fail!" I am a true believer that there is no such thing as failure. Every no steers you to where you belong, so how can it be a bad thing? I got to the point in my job search where I would tell myself, "It's not meant to be," and even though I didn't want to believe it, I knew it was true. Did I cry, have sleepless nights and let my anxiety overcome me? Sure did. Am I still alive? Yup, and thriving none the less. When you're out of college, job hunting is going to be the most rewarding, most terrifying experience of your life. But, it's finally your life, your decisions. You choose what happens next. You pick the best route. No more riding in the passenger seat—you're driving. Own your drive. Don't let everyday obstacles stop you from reaching your final destination. You've come too far to give up now.
You will hear the word "no" throughout your entire career, whether it's someone saying no to your ambitious idea or no to a requested vacation day. But hearing no during the job hunt is not like these situations. Being rejected from a job is a gift from the universe. You are dodging a bullet, small and large. You may never know what life is like in that job, but you don't need to. You will land where you're meant to land. The pieces will come together exactly how they're supposed to. Everyone fails, but not everyone fails successfully. Don't let a no tear you down; let it build you up. Live your life by this notion and you will never see gray skies, only sunshine.